Play Therapy for Anxiety: What It Is—and What It Isn’t
Play therapy for anxiety isn’t simply giving a child toys and waiting for them to “play out” their feelings.
When I work with anxious kids, play is the language I use to teach them how anxiety works and how to respond to it differently.
We might turn worry into a bossy character, investigate anxious thoughts like detectives, practice uncertainty through games, or create playful challenges that help a child approach something they’ve been avoiding.
What it IS:
• Learning to recognize when worry is taking over
• Giving anxiety a name and learning to talk back to it
• Practicing brave behavior through games and challenges
• Gradually facing fears instead of avoiding them
• Learning that uncomfortable feelings are safe and temporary
• Building confidence through experience: “I did it even though I was scared.”
What it ISN’T:
• Just playing with toys and hoping anxiety improves
Distracting a child from anxiety
• Trying to keep them calm all the time
• Reassuring them that nothing bad will happen
• Avoiding things that make them uncomfortable
• Expecting them to explain complicated emotions like an adult
For children with anxiety, the goal isn't to make sure they never feel anxious.
The goal is to help them discover:
“I can feel worried AND still do hard things.”
That's how confidence grows—not by removing every uncomfortable feeling, but by giving kids opportunities to discover what they're capable of.
Sandra Wilson, M.Ed., LPC, NCC, CAIP
Psy Of Relief Counseling
Anxiety Counseling for Kids, Teens & Adults
Houston & Clear Lake Area